The following passages portray the agony of a rape victim. The words used are harsh and the crime itself is inhumane beyond words. Lets keep an open mind and get an insight in the mind of this child.
“Today I committed a sin! A sin of robbing my parents of the title “parents”! A sin that will send me to hell…but hell sounds so much better compared to the wretched reality of this world. The world where I was governed by stereotype thinkers who debarred me from the right to everything! I was only fourteen years old yet why was my soul ripped out of my body when they touched me… That horrific night, when the world was sleeping in peace, my world was turned upside down. It was like life flagellated me!
Yes, I was raped and I am not a girl!
Are you in shock to read that I am a boy and that I was raped? You are not the only one! The society that we are living in is a very funny place because this society loves to preach equality but they just forget to practice it. According to the World health Organization (WHO) rape is defined as, any sexual act against a person's sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless of their relationship to the victim. It is so easy to define rape but they just forget to mention the despair torment and hopelessness one goes through. Today when I see myself in the mirror, I am just a lifeless apathetic figure who was robbed of his dreams.
Dear mother, I am sorry to commit suicide. The world may call me a coward but please forgive me for this crime as every breath I took, I felt miserable. I know that as a mother of five children, your life has not been easy. Father was not a kind man. Even after the birth of my four beautiful lovely sisters, his hunger for a male heir to carry on the family was never quenched until you gave birth to me. They say that labor pain is as painful as breaking twenty bones of your body simultaneously. Going through that once is more than enough in this lifetime but father made you go through it five times.
The stereotype thinkers of our society consider premarital sex a taboo but are completely okay with marital rape. As a young girl who was married at the tender age of eighteen you suffered a lot. I know that you are wondering about how I learnt about sex and that I am writing about your pain at such a young age, but on that night, I was struck by lightening! When every single inch of my body was aching with pain and I was feeling mortified, my mind went blank and I lost myself to nothingness…
My dear mother, I am sorry to rob you of your position as a parent. When a husband loses his wife, he is called a widower. When a wife loses her husband, she is called a widow. When children lose their parents, they are called orphans but there is no word in this world for a parent who loses a child. This is the pain that I am going to inflict upon you.”
Do you feel torn up inside your heart…as if you were stabbed? This is the anguish that a rape victim goes through. It is a common misconception that only women are raped. Though statistically more women are raped than men, the despair that they feel is common. The pain that they go through is common. One of the most astonishing facts that I came across was that according to the Indian Law, Rape is a crime that is forced by a male on a female only! A 2009 study of “Lara Stemple”, a graduate from Harvard University documented the worldwide conflicts. In this study, it was found that 76% of male political prisoners in 1980s El-Salvador and 80% of concentration camp inmates in Sarajevo reported being raped or sexually tortured. It is still commonly found that male rape reports are under reported compared to females.
If we wish to make a difference in this world, each and every one of us needs to take a step forward against these heinous crimes. It is our duty as a human being to be intolerant towards such narrow-minded bigoted crimes. We need to bring a change in our mindset... A change that would not consider a person who get’s raped far more shameful than the person who raped someone.
(Disclaimer: This is a pure creation of my imagination. The events and characters depicted in this write up are fictitious. Any similarity to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.)
BY: © Ria Dabhade