“When you can stop you don't want to, and when you want to stop, you can't...” ― Luke Davies, Candy
We are all addicts, aren’t we? If you say no, think again. All of us face different sorts of addictions; from drugs and alcohol to social media, video-games and junk food to Netflix and shopping, addictions subsume literally everything. We recognize we are addicted but we cannot just help it as if this magical force is too spellbinding to not give in.
The whys and the hows can differ and fluctuate for each one of us but too much of anything has repercussions. There are things we all want to change. Things we want to quit or procure some control over. It is difficult to tackle these powerful urges and it seems like no matter how many times we try, the urges just seem to overpower us every single time.
One way to take the rein is practicing mindfulness. Whenever you develop an urge for your addiction, just sit back and pay attention to it, be mindful. See how you feel and where you feel it in your body. You have to do this until the desire fades away or vanishes completely.
Stay away from your addictions and whatever causes them. If you feel there are places or people that trigger the urge or desire, just keep away from them. Sometimes the addictions come up as a result of stress, adversities or trauma. We use it as an escape. If this is your situation, get yourself into another activity for example- go for a workout, talk to your loved ones, meditate or just sleep! Do whatever helps you feel better and takes your mind off.
Take care of yourself. It’s impossible to cope with addictions if you aren’t in a good emotional or physical state. Get enough rest, have a support system and just try to improve your overall health, physical as well as emotional. Evaluate what you are going to do and ask yourself if it supports the vision for your life, the answer is going to be a no since we are talking about addictions here and it might help you take a step back. Push it forward day by day or week by week and you’ll reach a point where it’s no more an addiction.
Coping with addictions can be liberating, it might as well as prove to be a turning point in your life. Learn how to say no; to yourself and to others. These urges that we feel will pop up incessantly do pass with time if you are ready to face them and resolve to stay strong. Be gentle with yourself, these things take some time. Help yourself like you would help a loved one. Create a new life for yourself; a better one because you deserve it. Welcome yourself to the new chapter of your life with warmth and affection!
“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
― August Wilson