You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.” ― Pema Chödrön
We have all encountered circumstances where we wish we had acted differently. Where we had responded and not reacted. Where we wanted to tackle the chaotic mess with composure and calmness and had not just done it in the heat of the moment. We all retort. Don’t we?
Fury, anger, exasperation and impulsive behavior haven’t helped anyone. They just wreck relationships, career and your life in general. These emotions just squander your precious time and tarnish your immaculate self. But in the end, these are emotions and yes they are manageable.
As corny as it sounds, we are all humans and we make mistakes. Be kind, to yourself and to others. We are presented with at least two choices every time. You can always choose to respond in a better way. You don’t have to reprimand, yell, belittle people or throw things at them. You can always talk, communicate, provide feedback rather than criticize, you can always choose to be considerate.
You can’t plan life. Things go awry but it is actually not a big deal most of the times. When you find yourself losing your calmness, just take a minute. Breathe, feel the emotion and then find the stillness in you. Contemplate if you can behave or respond in a better manner. If someone is at fault, would you want to be spiteful and be just like them or would you like to be the bigger person here?
Happiness is overrated. We cannot be happy all the time and this is a hard pill to swallow. We keep chasing happiness but never ever forget life is as much about the lows as it is about the highs. The trying circumstances in life are trying to teach you something, the difficult obstacles not only make you strong but also resilient. Moments are ephemeral but how you behave and the words you utter can leave an everlasting impression on someone.
The choices you make have consequences and you can always choose better. If not for others, do it for yourself. Give it a try and see for yourself how it makes you feel. The way you treat others is just an outer reflection of how you feel about yourself, inside. Kindness begets kindness.
“Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness in people.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart